Thursday, April 7, 2022

Two Very Lonely Months

 AJ AZ   High 89  Low 63

I can't believe it's been two months since Jim died. I miss him terribly but I really am doing good enough. 

These months are kind of blurry. So much has happened and is still happening with paper work and medical bills and getting social security and government pensions and life insurance and health insurance all figured out. 

Our weather has been kind of all over the place during these two months. We had snow on the Superstitions.


We've had some record heat already.  Most days have been absolutely beautiful with highs in the 70s or 80s and lows in the 50s or 60s. 

We did have a storm with 58 mph gusts go through and my neighbor, Wendy, took this fantastic picture of our rainbow after the storm.


We donated Jim's clothes to Genesis Project, a local non-profit. We (and by we,  I mean all my friends here) also had a park wide patio sale. We had a good turnout and I sold a lot of Jim's tools and equipment. 

I sold our truck and bought a smaller car that belonged to Paula's mother.  Also sold the Bungalow and I'm now working on selling the boat. It's really hard to let go of all these things but I need to move forward with adjusting to a new normal for me.

On February 26 we held a memorial service for Jim. It was a beautiful service and several people shared memories of Jim. 

This is the program I had done for him. 

The table that Michaela organized for me. 

On a sad note, Chris Mosley who was a speaker at the service, died unexpectedly on March 20th. He was a good man and I miss him. 

Todd and Michaela were able to be here with me for the service.  They also helped me clean out a lot of things and make some decisions. I'm so grateful for them. 

This is the last picture I have of Jim. He took a selfie to send to let his boys know he was home from the hospital. Two days later he was gone. 

I will be staying in Arizona for the summer since this is now home. Wish me luck with the heat. 



  1. I cannot imagine what it is like to be in your shoes and I hope all in your life continues to improve. Bev and I hope we are killed in the same incident so neither of us has to deal with the loss of our soul-mate. I hope you keep posting.

  2. My heart goes out to you Sandie.

  3. Glad to see you are getting on with life after losing Jim. It will take time before the emotional roller coaster runs more smoothly.
    Both Kathy and I have done this journey.
    Be Safe!

    It's about time.

  4. You have made some important and heartfelt decisions that you have to do. I know it is so hard to let go of things that were Jim's. I am selling my home in Oregon this summer and still have tools etc that were Mark's. I will make Florida my permanent home.

  5. Sandie-you are amazing and my heart goes out to you! Continuing to keep you in my prayers! Lovely program! So glad you have family and friends to help you! Hugs!

  6. All my best, Sandy...... It is such an uphill battle loosing the love of your life. You are making the tough decisions and dealing with the tough stuff. Bravo for you ! I don’t comment much but I have spent years enjoying the travels and adventures you and Jim have shared. Where does time go ? Take good care of YOU !

  7. So sad but so glad you were able to do what you needed to do . We will be in AJ for a few days next week and looking forward to seeing you.

  8. You have been on my mind. I am so glad you posted. It sounds like you are putting one foot in front of the other and making forward strides. It must be so hard. I know your loss is so great. Keep us up on what you are doing even if it seems boring. We want to know you are ok.

  9. I know how tough this is for you, been there. It was great the kids were there to help you get through some of the decisions. Your moving along and getting things going for you. Missing Jim will always be there but time lessons the pain some. Michaela did a beautiful job setting up the table. Blessings to you and your family.

  10. Keeping you in our prayers. I know we cannot even begin to imagine what you are going through. It sounds like you are taking it one day at a time and one task at a time and I am guessing that is all anyone can do when they lose the love of their life. Glad you took the time to update as to what is going on in your life. We hope to continue hearing from you. Hugs

  11. Noticed you commented on Dee's Blog (Tumbleweed) and decided to stop by and say hello and that you are in my prayers. I asked my wife, Karen, to take a look at your post so she could get to know ya as well.



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